I’m Not Forgetting the Fathers

            Some may ask, “What about expecting fathers?  Don’t they deserve a quilt?”  The short answer to that is yes.  While I still strongly believe expecting mothers should get a quilt first because of all they go through, that does not mean I believe fathers should be forgotten all together.  The problem is, in my experience, fathers are the ones who get all the congratulations and the slaps on the back without having done much of the work.  The simple act of them being a father and doing the slightest amount of work gets them great acclaim, while everything else is expected of the mother without any recognition whatsoever.  This goes from the actual pregnancy to the care of the baby afterwards.  I have seen a man practically forget his wife was part of the delivery process, as well as heard about someone who refused to even listen to the baby’s cries at night, much less get up to help.  With these examples in front of me, I truly believe the mothers should get a quilt first.

Don't Forget the Mortar

                Fortunately, what I have described is not all fathers.  There are fathers who are supportive from day one, willing to help in any way they can, and never forgetting what their wives have gone through.  Those are the fathers who deserve a quilt, along with the ones who get forgotten.  Yes, along with the mothers, after a baby is born, the fathers can be forgotten.  Despite their efforts to be involved, some men are pushed away because of the false belief that fathers aren’t important for the first few months.  Fathers are important from day one, and if they are pushed away, they may end up feeling lost as well.  So, make these fathers a quilt.  They may need it for those nights when they are up with the baby, or when they are feeling forgotten in all that is going on.  Who knows what a difference that quilt could make.